I have an admission to make, folks.
I am hurt, angry and deeply disappointed. I am also feeling increasingly isolated and out of step with others in both the autism and home ed communities. I have been for some time but this morning I have seen two Facebook posts from people that I know and have some respect for.
Both of whom, I fear, are in the long run harming their children.
Not out and out abuse mind you. But by following convention. By doing what ‘experts’ say is best.
How can squashing your child’s behaviors help?
Why be angry with the system for something it CANNOT do?
Yet, I feel like John the Baptist…a lone voice crying in the wilderness.
These methods WORK! And while they are not easy, while allowing your child the freedom to be herself…to grow…and YES, TO CONTROL HER DESTINY…may go against what society and those experts preach, it makes your child happier…and ultimately YOU happier too.
But they are so caught up in maintaining their illusion of control, in fixing their child, in making them like everyone else. They miss the true gift of autism and Pathological Demand Avoidance.
I truly believe this one…our children are sent to teach us…and this WORLD….SOCIETY.
Because let’s be honest, folks….this world is screwed up. We have screwed it up. Trying to be like society says we should be. It don’t work, folks. So why the f^*k is it too hard to try another path?
To let these amazing gifts and blessings teach us…
what is important,
and how to be happy?
I truly and honestly believe that with all my heart. And it hurts me deeply when I see those gifts being ‘squashed’.
I am sorry that I cannot write more or say more today. I need to go away and think for a bit. I need to find our place…our tribe. Those in the autistic and home ed community that are searching for a BETTER way. Who want HAPPINESS for their child…and themselves. Who have the vision to see Autism and especially Pathological Demand Avoidance for the blessing and timely gift that it is.
I will do my best to have mroe to say tomorrow. Until then goddess bless you…and them.